So much of life stresses, pain, suffering, stems from how much you allow yourself to tolerate in your world.
It’s so easy to sit and point finger to many others as to why things are happening the way they are, why you’re feeling the way you feel, why life isn’t flowing the way you may wish it to. Each day waking, wondering how the day will pan out. These pain points become a top topic in your conversations, trying to make sense of it all, trying to make sense of others, trying to have others understand your view, yet very rarely turning the lens on yourself to see how you’re playing in this…all this does it create a constant loop that never seems to end.
The majority of what’s happening in your own world, is a result of what you, yourself, are choosing, what you’re allowing, what you’re tolerating.
This is not to dismiss how others show up, how others behave in this world, but the more space, leeway people are given to disrespect, mistreat, criticise others, the more they will continue to do so. You see, it starts with you, it always starts with you.
When no standard is set for yourself, anything will be able to get passed you and over time that one small thing you pushed to the side, turns into an even bigger thing.
When one has a standard for themselves, their voice is used, requests are made with love, boundaries around their time, energy, space is automatically in place. They don’t stand around waiting for things to change, they are the change, for themselves. Their body whispers to them, they listen and then they act accordingly. They live in peace. They still have challenges that arise in their world, yet they move through them with more ease simply because they keep unnecessary pain out….they choose a healthy hard.
Setting a standard for yourself doesn’t mean others will have the same standards as you, they will differ from person to person and those with standards respect the standards of others. So to truly know yourself, is to deeply know your standards and live by them.
Saying you have a good standard yet you still experience the feeling of unease a good part of the time, is simply just an idea in your mind that has yet to become a part of you. The fact that you have an idea is a good step in the right direction, the next is to dig deep into how a person with those standards actually shows up for themselves.
Take your eye off everyone else and take a good look in the mirror into who you are being yourself.
Are you trying to prove something to yourself or others?
Does the act of others dictate how you feel about yourself?
Do you see a similar pattern reoccurring for yourself?
It’s hard to turn the lens on yourself, to see the parts you’re playing, but trust me when I say, it’s one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself and once you recognise it, who you are, how you show up for yourself can change in an instant.
A life of peace is made up of standards, boundaries, agreements mixed with love.
Which all starts with & stems from you.
Don’t wait for 2024 to be the change, be the change you want to see right now.