Angela I woke up this morning and I was so excited to speak with you today, you inspire me in so many ways, I follow you on Facebook and I see what you’re doing. You’re a mum of five, you’ve been an international model, you’ve owned your own modelling agency, which was one of the top modelling agencies here in New Zealand, you’re a stylist, an author and you have your own wine label.  It blows me away and amazes me in all that you do.

One thing for me that really stands out with you is, you come across as such a gracious and confident woman, have you always been a confident person and if not, what was the turning point for you?

Angela: I have always been exactly like I am, even as a young girl. I was brought up with my grandmother and I think that the fact that I came from the lifestyle that I did and what I endured as a child, I learnt so much as such a young person. I was very heavily involved with sport and we were New Zealand champions. I got to travel a lot and I experienced a lot as a young person. I know, had I not had those experiences, I would not be half the person I am today. If I told you in great detail, I would have you in tears but also I’d have you in tears of absolute joy. I’ve been through so much, like so many ladies and people have, but I always had a really big light shinning and I knew I was here to do amazing things and I’ve never sat still, I’m constantly on the go and I think my level of confidence comes from really inside, it’s a knowing and I’m very focused and very driven. I think when you have purpose, you’re half way there. You’ve just got to go out there and execute it.

Charmaine: And having that confidence to do that.

Angela: Absolutely, and I have to say, I get asked by my clients all the time, ‘How do I get more confident’, and my answer to them is that, you have to invest in yourself, invest in your time, invest in energy, and really investing in making the most of who you are and really accepting yourself.  When I was five years old, I could recite ‘You have to accept the things you can not change, have courage to change the things you can but you have to have the wisdom to know the difference’ and I knew at five years of age that I wanted to do big things and I am continuing on that pathway.

Can you tell me about some of the changes you have made within yourself that have helped you to be a confident woman. What are some of the things you do that helps you.

Angela: I have mentors, I have people that specialise in areas that I absolutely love, spiritually, mentally, physically as well and so what I do is I regularly connect with these people to help grow me. I grow myself on the inside so everything works on the outside. I think that is probably one of the biggest things I do. Also I’m really looking after myself and I think you have to look after yourself mentally, a lot, especially when you have a lot of demands on you as well. Then physically, I think everyone needs to exercise everyday, it becomes a part of your lifestyle. I have a large family and so sitting down and dinners for us are very important. This is when I bring all my family together at night.  Its about working hard and playing hard. That’s what I do. It’s a 24/7 thing. This doesn’t stop. It’s not a button that get’s turned on. I guess, I would say, investing. Investing in your growth and your purpose, are two of the most powerful tools that you can do for yourself.

So how do you find you can do that, with a family? I guess with kids, they can throw a spanner in the works sometimes and it can get you off track. How do you still concentrate on yourself, but also concentrate on your family, because they are important and mean so much to you. How do you balance that out?

Angela: Absolutely, I have a house full of teenagers, I have two home sick today. You know that old saying ‘Ask a busy person to get something done and it will be done’, well you know, you’ve just got to be active. One of my sayings to my children is the Nike slogan, JUST DO IT. We have a really big chalkboard in the kitchen and I write these inspirational quotes and ideas to my kids and the one that’s on there now is, Just do it. As a family and as a inspirational person, it never stops, it just never stops. The thing is, you’ve got to make decisions for yourself. I speak to a lot of teenagers, I speak to a lot of schools around the country and I say to these teenagers, you can get in the game of life, you can either be a spectator or you can get in the game – make a decision, unclip your wings and get on with it. I think a lot of people, they procrastinate, they think they can’t do it, well I want you to think about the fact that you can do it, you can actually do anything, you can do anything that you want in your entire life, you’ve just got to want it so much and I am actually living proof of that.

What are some other little advice that you can give to someone that’s wanting to make a change, even just the slightest change. What could be the first thing that they could do?

Angela: You’ve got to change your mindset. You’ve got to really listen to what’s going on up there. A mind is a magnificent tool but by gingos, can it almost interfere with your thoughts. Don’t sweat the small stuff, always smile, have a smile on your face and my god, it’s hard to be unhappy when you’ve got a smile on your face. I think too, do more for others. I believe we’ve been given two hands – one for ourselves, to serve ourself but the other is to serve other people. Do more for people, reach out, help people, be there for them, be kind. I really think people need to get off the couch and get going. Plan, make things happen and expect. So I think you have to decide, you have to believe it can happen and then you have to expect that it’s going to happen as well. Expect that miracles do happen, they actually happen every day. What ever that might be, it might be big, it might be the smallest thing. It’s about celebrating who you are and whatever you’re doing and just say thank you. I wake up and I look outside and I say, thank you for the sunshine today, thank you for just being alive and being present as well is really important.

Charmaine: And knowing that you are worth everything that you are wanting to do as well and you deserve it.

So what are a couple of things that you do to make yourself feel good everyday?

Angela: I get up at six o’clock in the morning and I exercise between six and seven, then I get my kids up and then our life starts to unfold for the day. I go to bed really early. I’m never out after twelve o’clock, I can’t do it, I’m too tired and I’ve got too much going on at night. I really look after myself, the more I look after myself the more I can look after people.  I just stay really focused and I work to the point.

Are there any other tips or tricks to inspire our listeners that you can share?

Angela: As a life stylist, I encourage people to get dressed everyday, put your make up on, do your hair, always wear lipstick, never leave home with out any lipstick on girl, I think that’s important. Also too, really check in with yourself, think about who your friends are, your friends are a real reflection of who you are as well, and I really do believe the more you give to people the more you are going to get back. Be really mindful of people that are in your life, are they there to support you and help grow who you are and just know this is a journey. Everything takes time. You know Rome wasn’t built in a day and the thing is, I think once you get on the pathway of self discovery and wanting a better life for yourself, everything starts to unfold. You know yesterday, I have a friend, his daughter just got her dream job. I remember her saying to me a couple of years ago, I just want to be an intern at L magazine in Australia, she got it, she got it yesterday and it is amazing. It was going to be just a matter of time. So all good things happen in time.

One question that comes up a lot with people I speak to and at times for myself is, surrounding yourself with positive people, people that make you feel good and support you, what about the people that don’t support you or aren’t get-up-and-go people. How do you eliminate them or at least pull yourself away from them with out it being awkward?

Angela: I hear you. You know, you’ve really got to honour yourself here, and you’ve got to really have to seriously look at who is supporting you, what’s in line with your values, what works for you and what doesn’t.  What I would suggest you do is, have a conversation with them, find out where they’re at and you try and help them wether they could be in a unhappy space. You need to start to build your own network of people who are actually there for you. With in time, some people just actually move away from your life because they not adding anything to you or they’re not supporting you or not loving you the way you want to be loved. Sometimes though, those people, you’ve just got to reach out a little bit more, if you feel they are good for you, otherwise cut the cord. You can do that in lots of ways, and say, hey it’s time for me to move on.

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